Which one are you and which one are they? The planner, the responsible one, the crazy one, the funny one, the quiet one, the smart one, the driver, or do you fill a different role?
Either way, the role a person plays with their friends can tell you a lot about the person. It can be something big, something small, something physical, or something immaterial. But everyone has something they are proud of if they think hard enough about it.
This is another question that can be taken in a lot of different directions. While the vastness of space is a popular answer to this one, you never know what kind of interesting thing the person you are talking to might come up with. This answer depends a lot on their current mood and how they are looking at the world. Perhaps a fantastic talent? Maybe a unique character trait? Find out what their friends think about them and what the real story is.
It could be a food, activity, place, or something completely different. I like this one because it forces you to think outside the box. Another one that is more entertaining, the more creative you get with it.
It can be a lot of fun trading titles back and forth and discussing why you chose the title you did. And what they think they would do can tell you about their personality and what they think is important. It can be anything. Steps walked. True loves passed on the street. Percentage of the World seen. You can get as creative as you want with this one. It might be something positive that they are happy they held onto or perhaps a negative habit that has persisted. Whatever they come up with will probably tell you something about who they are now and possibly who they want to become.
I would suggest they tell you the number, and you guess what it refers to, but there are way too many ways that could go wrong. So, steer clear of that little game. Everyone has rules for themselves that they try to follow. Find out which ones they follow most diligently.
A great question to ask because you might just pick up some excellent advice. Ah, the guilty pleasure songs or artists. We all have some songs or artists that are so cheesy or cringe-worthy that we are a little embarrassed that we like them. But I say embrace them! Some examples of in-groups you might be in: a country, a political party, a school, a fan of a sports team, a religion, a club, a race, a follower of a hobby, a watcher of a TV show, etc.
There are so many in-groups that we all are a part of. It could be a kind word, a kind gesture, a piece of advice, or something else entirely.
And just remember, you can be that stranger that has a big impact on the lives of others. BFF Quiz. It can be interesting to talk about paths not taken and what might have been. And we all wish that our earlier selves did something to improve our current self. As they say, the best time to plant a tree was 10 years ago, but the second-best time to plant a tree is today.
You always have to love when you stumble into a good outcome after a bunch of bad decisions. I like this question because by explaining the gap of how they think the world views them versus what they are really like, you get to learn a lot about them. This is another question that I love because you learn something about them from the question they choose to ask. And when you answer their question, they learn more about you.
You slowly lose your fear of some things while others take their place. Find out what some of their personal goals are and share some of your own goals as well. By talking about where they feel most out of place, you can often tell what kind of place they feel most comfortable in. But it can be a lot of fun to come up with examples.
This is a great one to ask yourself or others. This can turn into a really long, fun discussion about the hidden rules that we all live by.
You can take it in a serious or a more playful direction, both are fun and rewarding. Fiction, non-fiction, autobiography, textbook? What kind of book do they think they would like to put out into the world?
Could you do something that impacted every person on the planet? I love this one because it forces you to look at some of the less pleasant aspects of your personality that you might not normally think about. Very similar to the epitaph question, but while that question was more the short and sweet version, this one is great for elaborating on what they think of as a good life. As we get older, the way we view the world shifts and changes. Find out how they view the world by finding out what changed that view.
This question might let you know a little bit about how much they need social interaction, it might also give you a clue into what brings them peace or purpose. I love this one because it is so open-ended. It can be any event. Big or small.
This question is more about putting opinions or beliefs into perspective. This one is a big question that everyone should probably ask themselves. You could go in all kinds of different directions with this one. Most people will probably say their death. You can also get pretty creative with it. When will humans colonize another planet? Similar to the question about what you regret not starting when you are younger, but this one is a little more in-depth.
Feel free to skip this one if you covered enough regret ground in the earlier question. Sometimes our lives spin on moments, and sometimes in those moments, we make mistakes. What would be great to take back control of and fix the error you made.
These questions can lead to some deep, sometimes painful discussions. Best to save these questions for when you are both ready for a more serious discussion. This one is a bit hit or miss. Just make sure they are comfortable talking about it. While we all are addicted to something, some addictions are way more harmful than others. So, you might want to be a bit wary about this question.
It can easily slip into dark places or it might not be something they want to talk about. Existential dread? Sibyl Hudson's Ownd. Juicy Questions to Get to Know Someone. You meet new people every day. Often there is no need for you to know them deeply or personally.
You finish your dealings with them and move on. This is not always the case. You would like to know some people you meet better and at a more personal level. Tamekis Williams , LCSW, founder of Mission Dorothy Female Empowerment Services , adds that you want to ask open-ended questions that will allow the other person to elaborate, instead of questions that can be answered with a simple "yes" or "no.
Btw, that's a two-way street, adds Williams. On that note, Williams suggests taking a careful approach in your questions, as you don't want the other person to feel like you're violating their privacy.
Questions you should probably steer clear of early on: "Democrat or Republican? There are other ways to bypass small talk and learn more in-depth info about the other person, says Williams.
An example would look like: 'I just moved to Georgia last year and found a beautiful community that I fell in love with and purchased a home. What about you, do you love where you live? With a little patience, you'll become way closer with the person you're just getting to know in no time. Here are not-boring questions to get you started:. The important thing here is to go deeper by asking follow-up questions. For example, "If you find out they like dogs, take it a bit deeper by asking them what they like most about their dog or their favorite breed," Hendrix explains.
Are you into podcasts or do you only listen to music? If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be? How old were you when you had your first celebrity crush , and who was it? Questions can help deepen any relationship, but you should never have to ask these ones if you're in a healthy relationship:. Do you sleep with a top sheet? Why or why not? Do you have a favorite type of exercise?
No matter how a person feels about his or her job, the fact is, tons of people spend a lot of time and energy at work. How does he or she act different outside of family? If you were given a choice to choose your manner of death, how would you die? Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility. If you were forced to vote for one the biggest dictators of history, Hitler, Mussolini, Mugabe, Mao, Saddam or Stalin , which one would you pick and why?
If you could have any animal in the world as a pet, what would it be and why? If you were given a chance to explore the oceans, go to outer space or visit 50 different countries, which one you choose and why? Out of the negative emotions of greed, anger, jealousy and hate, which one would you say affects you the most? Out of the positive emotions of compassion, positivity, enthusiasm and initiative, which one is your biggest strength?
If you could be President of your country for an hour, what is the one thing that you would change? If you were given a choice to turn into a zombie or to die, which would you pick? If you had to pick one, what is the most important value you would teach your children? Honesty, Kindness or Courage? Name one really surprising thing that set your heart pumping and gave you an adrenaline rush.
Tell me about the time you were so embarrassed in love, you wished you could disappear right there and then. Tell me about your biggest love regret that made you wish you could turn back time? If you were forced to pick one religion on this planet, which one would it be and why?
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